What’s one of the very first questions you get asked at a networking event or evening social?

“So, what do you do?”

And you answer: “I’m a… .”

Could be teacher, accountant, dentist, custodian, artist, wealth advisor, coach, shopkeeper.

The myriad jobs there are in the world.

My answer for many years: “I’m a trial lawyer.”

Which, in my imagination, sounded really kick-ass and important.

There are two big problems with “I am” statements.

The first is that they usually describe such a tiny part of you, especially when the “I am” is the way you earn a living.

The truth is that you are so many things, with so many talents, gifts, interests, and attributes.

You’re complicated. We all are.

You’re “I am” is not you.

You’re not one thing; and you’re definitely not your job.

The second problem with your “I am” statement is that it often becomes hardened. Stuck in time. Fossilized even.

Who you are evolves over time. Or at least it can evolve if you allow it.

Often when I’m working with a mid-career professional who wants to create that exciting next chapter in their life, the biggest obstacle for them is their job identity. It’s especially hard to let go of an “I am” if it’s given them power and prestige.

But when you soften your grip on your “I am,” the world is filled with possibilities.

Because you are filled with possibilities.